1. Always put God first, make time for a quiet time reading the Bible every morning.
This is so important for us to have a quiet time in the morning so we can focus our attention on God first. I find that it helps both of us to view each other through a better lens and helps us to be kind to each other. I highly recommend incorporating a quiet time in your daily routine.
2. Communicate and over communicate.
This one is key in any good relationship, but so important in marriage. We aren’t always the best at this one, but it’s so important to over communicate with each other about everything so you’re on the same page as each other and also so you don’t end up with unmet expectations for the other person. We talk about everything even to the smallest thing of telling each other when we are spending money on something. It helps us stay in tune with each other and on the same page.
3. Have a date night every week
We love our date nights and it’s so important to prioritize your spouse. Even if you have kids, it’s so important to take one day every week aside to have just you and your spouse. Our date nights range from at home movie and game nights to going out to dinner or even going away for the weekend for a small getaway. When we were first married, we didn’t have a lot of money to spend and it was hard on our marriage and we found it difficult at times to plan date nights, but a lot of times it would include a free activity like the pet store or chocolate world for us. Being creative and fun really helps bring your marriage to life.
4. Willing to sacrifice for the other person
This one is a very important one! It’s so essential to place one another’s needs above your own. When we were first married, it took us some time to learn this one. Sacrificing means putting the other persons needs or wants before your own. This takes time and practice to learn how to give up anything from time to things you expect or want.
5. Lots of hugs and kisses
This is so important in every relationship, especially in a marriage. It is said that if you hug someone 20 times a day they feel more loved. We try to hug and kiss each other often throughout the day.
These are the things we’ve found most helpful that have helped us to have a successful and healthy marriage. We are far from perfect and every relationship has it’s difficult seasons, but focusing on serving each other and loving each other through all seasons is so important!